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From: jcp@osiris.UUCP (Jody Patilla)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Saying no
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Date: Mon, 24-Feb-86 09:14:54 EST
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Posted: Mon Feb 24 09:14:54 1986
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> 
> Ah, but what do you do when she (or he, of course) says something like
> "Gee, I'd really love to, but I've got to ..."? Is that a no or a yes-
> but-some-other-time. What if it happens a couple of times? I generally
> try again, but if it happens 3 times, thats it. Am I blowing it for a
> possible relationship with someone who just happens to be a pretty busy
> person?

	Once upon a time when I was young and innocent it happened that an
interesting (and slightly older) young man asked me out but I was tied up
that whole weekend at an out-of-town convention. He never asked again and
I kicked myself later for not saying, "not this weekend but what about another
time soon ?". Note that I hadn't said no, nor implied that I didn't want to
see him at all, but looking back I can see that he might have been nervous
about it to start with and one rejection was enough. It's a shame to miss an
opportunity but now at least I know better.

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jcpatilla
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