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From: woods@hao.UUCP (Greg Woods)
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Subject: Re: Re: Re: Beach harassment
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Date: Mon, 24-Feb-86 15:27:08 EST
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> > > 	And then there are those of us who are just "Incredibly Busy".
> > > 	It's not too easy to make dates if you have to get up early.
> >    Sorry, but I don't buy this one. It's a story, an excuse. To avoid just
> > saying you aren't enough interested. If you really wanted to go out with the 
> > guy who asked, you would MAKE the time, even if it meant losing a few hours
> > of sleep.

> 	'Fraid you are wrong, pal. In fact, lack of sleep time can really
> wreck a relationship that's already established. 

  If I didn't make it clear, I apologize, but I thought the discussion
was about dates with a NEW person, NOT continued dates within an already
established relationship. My point was, if you aren't willing to ONCE
sacrifice a few hours of sleep to go out with me, or at least suggest
an alternate time which would be more convenient for you, then you really
aren't very interested in starting ANY kind of relationship with me. This
is NOT the same thing as saying I ALWAYS expect you to sacrifice your sleep
time. In fact, such a sacrifice might not even be necessary (see above), but
using this as a reason for not going out with me is just a story to avoid
telling me you really don't want to.

> Myself, I need alot of sleep and I get up very early 

  How much sleep you need is almost totally a product of how much you *think*
you need; given the proper motivation, you could probably make do with a lot
less than you now get. (As an extreme example, if your house was on fire, 
you wouldn't say you're too tired and go back to sleep. You'd get up.)

> - it's not fair for ME to be the one who
> loses sleep while the other person can sleep much later in the morning.

  Agreed. MAINTAINING a relationship required BOTH persons to compromise
now and then. This is NOT the issue I was talking about, however.

> Sacrificing sleep for a date can mean that I'll get sick

  If insufficient sleep ONE NIGHT can actually make you sick, you should see
a doctor immediately, as that might very well be an indicator of a very
serious problem. More likely, though, it's a product of your belief that
you can't function without X hours of sleep a night. Such beliefs tend
to become self-fulfilling prophecies.

--Greg
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