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From: jeanette@randvax.UUCP (Jeanette Haritan)
Newsgroups: net.women,net.singles
Subject: Re: Yet another thought/beach harrassment
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Date: Mon, 24-Feb-86 09:16:40 EST
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Posted: Mon Feb 24 09:16:40 1986
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In article <3239@umcp-cs.UUCP> aleksand@maryland.UUCP (R Alexandr) writes:
>
> 
>What! You were on the beach and a man made *gasp* overtures!
>Oh my God! You wouldn't by any chance have been wearing a
>sexy bikini, French cut perhaps? If you don't want men to
>talk to you on the beach, what you do is cut a hole in a
>garbage bag and put that on. Or eat like a hog for a few weeks
>until you resemble a beached whale. Then I'm pretty sure no
>one will bother you.
>
>Why don't you admit it? You love the attention you get on the 
>beach! Cut the bullshit!
>					B. Dog
>
Sure, we wash our hair because it looks better clean; we purchase clothes
that "compliment", rather than buy something that looks awful on us;
we use cosmetics to enhance our looks.  Speaking for myself, after I go
through all the time and trouble to look better I HOPE people notice the
improvement.  A compliment, "you look nice today" or "your exercises are
working", etc. should be welcome.

However, receiving a compliment, or any type of positive attention is far
different than having one's privacy interrupted.  For example, lets
suppose the woman in question (original article) DID have a French-cut,
sexy, itty-bitty bikini.  Chances are she WILL get attention...she should
probably EXPECT it and be prepared to handle it...however, a "whistle" or
any comments could be handled and taken however she wanted them to be.
What CAN'T be handled is a big galloot hanging all over her and NOT taking
the simple hint that her privacy would be greatly appreciated.

When she felt threatened, she should have told him where she stood.  He
should have honored it.  The fact that he knew she didn't want him around
(he SHOULD have known...she made it pretty obvious), and he stayed on,
showed complete rudeness and vanity.


jlh

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