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From: micci@nvuxg.UUCP (D M Dennee)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Falling for Wrong Women or Men
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Date: Tue, 25-Feb-86 14:45:00 EST
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Posted: Tue Feb 25 14:45:00 1986
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>Glen Fujimori writes:
>Why do men always fall for the wrong women...
This happens to men, too?  And I thought it was only the women
that fell for the wrong men. :-)  I don't think there is too
much difference in the sexes here, actually.  It depends on what
you mean by the "wrong" woman/man.  Is it because they're already
taken?  This one tends to happen to me often and I've figured that
it must be because when you can't have something, it becomes a bit
more valuable.  Or if the other person isn't taken, it could be
a psychological thing, i.e. "I'm not good enough or desireable to
be with someone good--I only deserve rotten SO's" or "This person
is so bad it makes me look good".  Or on not liking someone who
you thought would be perfect for you--"How can I be good enough for
this person". The list could go on, who really knows?

>what signals can we use to tell you we're interested?
Instead of directly asking for a date, hint around. ("Wow...you
like funny movies, too?  We should go see one together sometime...")
This shows your interested but isn't putting the "askee" on the
spot.  If I was interested also, I'd say "Yes, that sounds good
to
say gracefully, "yeah, maybe...".  I suppose the connotations would
be a bit hard for some to understand...but I don't know how to
explain it any further (I'm just babbling here--end of the day and
I'd like to go home.)

--micci