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From: richter@randvax.UUCP (Susan Richter)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: The "no is forever" doctrine
Message-ID: <60@randvax.UUCP>
Date: Mon, 24-Feb-86 20:27:02 EST
Article-I.D.: randvax.60
Posted: Mon Feb 24 20:27:02 1986
Date-Received: Fri, 28-Feb-86 07:41:39 EST
References: <167@axiom.UUCP> <1271@lll-crg.ARpA> <305@unirot.UUCP>
Reply-To: richter@rand-unix.UUCP (Susan Richter)
Organization: Rand Corp., Santa Monica
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Keywords: beyond the initial rejection

In article <305@unirot.UUCP> pooh@unirot.UUCP (Pooh) asks:
> If you are told "no" the first time, do you give up?

I don't ask very often (guess I'm too traditional that way), but
when I do it's someone I'm really interested in.  If I don't get
some really negative "cold-shoulder" reaction, I usually try
again, two or three times.  When I do ask a man out, it's nearly
always to a specific event (concert, show, etc.).  It's sort of hard
to tell when "Oh, I'd really like to go, but I'm already doing
something that evening" is really a scheduling problem and when 
it's just a polite euphemism for "Nope".  After two or three times, 
I would guess he's gotten the idea, and if he's interested, he'll ask.

(They're usually just being polite. :-)		 - Susan