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From: geoff@ism780c.UUCP (Geoff Kimbrough)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Truth is stranger than doctrine
Message-ID: <771@ism780c.UUCP>
Date: Tue, 25-Feb-86 14:44:24 EST
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Posted: Tue Feb 25 14:44:24 1986
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In article <167@axiom.UUCP> ramberg@axiom.UUCP (Mark Ramberg) writes:
>Sometimes, however, it gets kind of hard to tell a no when you hear one.
        Indeed, it can be difficult, there are no `formulas'. I do think
        you should have had a pretty easy time figureing this one out:
> [An approached lady says "no" ... ]   Twenty minutes passed and the lone
>lady was still unaccompanied. We made occasional eye contact, slight
>smile, harmless low level flirtation.            ^^^ ^^^^^^^  ^^^^^^
 ^^^^^                     ^^^^^^^^^^
        Seems pretty obvious to me.  If someone says "no", but continues
        to flirt, try again (unless you don't like people who play `hard
        to get').  (if s/he says "no" again, give up!)
>Now I submit to the group, how do I avoid dry cleaning bills? What social
>conventions did I violate?
        Avoid dry-cleaning bills by wearing washable clothes 8^).  I'd
        guess you erred by treating a "traditional" woman as if she were a
        "non-traditional" one, and she was insulted.  The dating game
        has very complicated rules, which is one of the reasons so many
        people (me, for instance) want to forget it and just be people.  I
        think it's ironic that, in theory, once you're good enough at the
        game to "win", you're supposed to stop playing 8^) )
> [...]     Is this an isolated incedent or are the net
>women just more direct than the mass of women?
        Some are, some aren't, some _think_ they are, and some _think_
        they're not.  (same goes for men wrt sexism)
>                                               Personally, I would never
>press beyond an initial rejection, but I can understand the confusion.
        Same here (on both counts).  It's really too bad everybody doesn't
        try to be as considerate, so women wouldn't feel so threatened,
        until they are, we have to pay for the sins of our fathers.
        (And wear washable clothes)
>Mark " Oh hell, just add a capacitor. " Ramberg

     Geoffrey "Hmm, I wonder what this capacitor's doing here." Kimbrough
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