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From: wfi@rti-sel.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Saying no
Message-ID: <686@rti-sel.UUCP>
Date: Tue, 25-Feb-86 11:42:11 EST
Article-I.D.: rti-sel.686
Posted: Tue Feb 25 11:42:11 1986
Date-Received: Fri, 28-Feb-86 21:21:44 EST
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Reply-To: wfi@rti-sel.UUCP (William Ingogly)
Organization: Research Triangle Institute, NC
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Summary: 

In article <3286@sun.uucp> falk@sun.uucp (Ed Falk) writes:

>> Ah, but what do you do when she (or he, of course) says something like
>> "Gee, I'd really love to, but I've got to ..."? Is that a no or a yes-
>> but-some-other-time. 
>
>Still counts as a "no".  ...

Let me put it this way. There's a couple living next door who you have
absolutely no interest in sexually. But they seem like nice enough
people, so you decide to ask them over for dinner. You get four "Gee,
thanks, but we're washing our hair" responses in a row. Are you
inclined to ask them over for dinner again? Would you keep trying to
ask them over for dinner for six months? It's obvious after a few
tries that they simply don't WANT to come over for dinner, that they
simply have NO interest in striking up a friendship with you. Why
should it be any different with a member of the opposite sex you have
some sexual interest in? Anybody who'd continue pursuit for six months
with nothing but "Gee, sorry Charlie's" ain't getting the message...
Emily Post or whoever was quoted in this group as saying three
"sorrys" was the same as a "no." I vote with Emily Post.

                         -- Cheers, Bill Ingogly