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From: kathy@gsg.UUCP (Kathryn Smith)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Interesting article
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Date: Tue, 25-Feb-86 17:04:31 EST
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Posted: Tue Feb 25 17:04:31 1986
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	In the above mentioned article the author observes that men seem to
be "dense" about noticing when a woman is interested in them.  This seems to
me to be part of a more general phenomenon -- men just don't seem to notice
what is going on emotionally in the people around them anywhere near as quickly
as women.  An example:

	I play role-playing/polictical/wargames with a group of people ( four 
men and six women ), all of whom fall into the 25 - 35 age group, and are 
single.  For some time now two of them have been seeing eachother fairly 
seriously (they are discussing marriage), but haven't explicitly said so to 
the rest of the group.  Every woman in the group, with the possible exception
of one who has only been around for about a month and a half, have become aware
of the relationship to some degree without being explicitly told.  On the other
hand, I don't think any of the men (except for the one involved, of course) 
have a clue.

	All of the men in question are well educated and generally considered
to be of at least above average intelligence.  I find myself at a loss to 
understand how they can miss something going on in front of their noses this
way.  Do people think this is something cultural, or have I just managed to 
find a group of people who all happen to share the same blind spot?

					Kathryn Smith
					(...decvax!gsg!kathy)
					General Systems Group, Inc.
					Salem, NH