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From: tab@vax135.UUCP (Tracey Baker)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: living with an SO
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Date: Thu, 27-Feb-86 19:24:29 EST
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Posted: Thu Feb 27 19:24:29 1986
Date-Received: Sat, 1-Mar-86 04:21:51 EST
Organization: AT&T Bell Labs, Holmdel, NJ
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There is a very interesting article in the March '86 issue of
Reader's Digest (at least I found it interesting) called "When
Unmarried Couples Live Together".  The main point of the article
is that if two unmarried people have a good relationship while
living together, it doesn't necessarily mean that they will
have a good marriage if & when they decide to get married.

The article is condensed from "Parade" and is written by Joyce
Brothers.  It's too long to include here  (along with being
copyrighted, etc.), but there are a few interesting points.

Here is a quote I found very interesting from Matti Gershenfeld,
president of the Couples Learnning Center near Philadelphia:

	"To maintain their living-together relationship,
	 couples often hide from each other important aspects
	 of their true selves."

The article also says that many couples live together instead
of getting married because they are afraid of marriage because
of seeing parents' or friends' marriages deteriorate.

Comments?  Anyone out there living with an SO?  What do you
think of this?

I would reccomend this article to anyone who is (or is thinking
about) living with an SO before marriage.  Even if you disagree
with what it says, it does point out some things that prevent
living together from being a good "testing ground" for marriage,
and what couples can do about it.

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Tracey Baker             UUCP: {ihnp4,decvax,allegra}!vax135!tab
AT&T Bell Laboratories
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Crawfords Corner Rd.
Holmdel, NJ 07733        Phone: (201) 949-1369

Disclaimer: The opinions expressed here are my own, and do
not reflect the views of my employer or of anyone else.
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