Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site oucs.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!cbosgd!oucs!jeff From: jeff@oucs.UUCP (Jeff Evans) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: The "no is forever" doctrine Message-ID: <119@oucs.UUCP> Date: Fri, 28-Feb-86 16:19:28 EST Article-I.D.: oucs.119 Posted: Fri Feb 28 16:19:28 1986 Date-Received: Sat, 1-Mar-86 16:33:38 EST References: <167@axiom.UUCP> <1271@lll-crg.ARpA> <305@unirot.UUCP> Organization: Ohio University, Athens Lines: 40 A short, simple, and incomplete answer to this is - it depends on the "no". If I am told "I would like to but I have other plans already", chances are that I will try again. If this starts to become a habit, I quit and get a bit upset with the fact that the lady just can't say "no, I'm sorry but I just don't think that I want to go out with you." Plain and simple. If this is put in a bad tone of voice (ie "I wouldn't go out with you if you were the last man on earth!" - this has happened to me folks) it is rude, but if you can come right out and say it nicely, it's not that bad. I have no set number of time that I will ask someone. It really depends on how much I like the person, but if I sense that I am being led on or fucked over in some way, I will quit and chances are, have a bad attitude towards that person. I was having a conversation with one of my roomates about this the other day. (I happen to be in the "Three's company" situation and have two female roomates) She had a date with a guy and really didn't want to go. She asked me what kind of excuse to use to get out of it. I told her (from my point of view) that she should just come right out and say she didn't want to go out with him. She didn't want to do this because "I don't want to hurt his feelings". I then told her (again from my point of view) that excuses hurt more than the truth because it makes me think that the person doesn't have enough repect for me as a human being to tell me the truth. What are everyone else's thoughts on excuses. I'm interested to find out. -- -=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=- Jeff Evans Computer Science Department Ohio University 423 Morton Hall Athens, Ohio 45701 (614) 594-5438 ihnp4!{amc1,cbdkc1,cbosgd,cuuxb}!oucs!jeff Disclaimer: All words and ideas are my own and not those of Ohio University. They say enough things to keep themselves busy! =-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=