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From: lonetto@phri.UUCP (Michael Lonetto)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Greener Pastures and Topics,Bitte!(really long relationships)
Message-ID: <2254@phri.UUCP>
Date: Wed, 26-Feb-86 16:14:21 EST
Article-I.D.: phri.2254
Posted: Wed Feb 26 16:14:21 1986
Date-Received: Sat, 1-Mar-86 16:42:53 EST
References: <11952@ucbvax.BERKELEY.EDU> <3172@sdcc3.UUCP> <901@felix.UUCP>
Reply-To: lonetto@phri.UUCP (Michael Lonetto)
Followup-To: article <901@felix.UUCP>
Organization: Public Health Research Inst. (NY, NY)
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Keywords: New topics.
Summary: The whole idea is to keep being yourself.

In article <901@felix.UUCP> daver@felix.UUCP (Dave Richards) writes:
>I'm a strong believer in very long engagements, but even so, I have yet to
>seriously consider marriage.  Why?  Because I can't imagine making the
>promise to love someone the rest of my life.  Isn't it a lot to ask to
>expect two people not to change over a 60 year span?  As far as likes,
>dislikes, personality, etc.?  I note with amusement some of the newer
>ceremonies have replaced the phrase, "'till death do you part."
>The funniest one I've heard was, "'till the relationship shall end."
>What kind of commitment is that?! (rhetorical question)
>Oh well, at least it's honest.
>
>Whimsically,
>Dave "the Monk" Richards

When you find someone who can be herself,changes and all, and let you be
yourself, including continuing to grow, you may change your mind.  It 
certainly is ridiculous to ask both yourself and someone else not to change.
It isn't too much for two people to accept each other for what they are,
warts and all, and to believe that they can both grow together and at the
same time maintain their autonomy and individuality.  It gets easier (for
some of us) as we get older.

Michael Lonetto    UUCP:(allegra!phri!lonetto) 
USMAIL: Public Health Research Institute, 455 1st Ave, NY, NY 10016