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From: woods@hao.UUCP (Greg Woods)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Falling for Wrong Women or Men
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Date: Thu, 27-Feb-86 13:21:48 EST
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Posted: Thu Feb 27 13:21:48 1986
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> >Glen Fujimori writes:
> >Why do men always fall for the wrong women...
> This happens to men, too?  And I thought it was only the women
> that fell for the wrong men. :-) 

   I hear this kind of discussion a LOT, and it is totally meaningless.
Who are we to decide what is right for someone else? The fallacy here
is the assumption that our values are the same as another person's,
or, more accurately, our values are the ones they SHOULD be holding.
Very egotistical if you ask me (and yes, I am occasionally guilty
of it to, but I am  aware that I do this and can therefore catch
myself at it before I create too much unecessary bad feeling).

> "How can I be good enough for this person".

 Same principle. It seems to me that only they can decide if you are
"good enough" for them. If you decide FOR them that you aren't good
enough, you can bet that you won't be, because you will instinctively
do whatever is necessary to turn them off to make sure your decision
is correct. I like to at least give them the chance to like you
instead of making sure it won't happen before you even start.

--Greg
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