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From: jan@ccice5.UUCP (John A. Nicowski Jr.)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: The "no is forever" doctrine
Message-ID: <1002@ccice5.UUCP>
Date: Thu, 27-Feb-86 04:46:05 EST
Article-I.D.: ccice5.1002
Posted: Thu Feb 27 04:46:05 1986
Date-Received: Sat, 1-Mar-86 23:01:37 EST
References: <167@axiom.UUCP> <1271@lll-crg.ARpA> <305@unirot.UUCP>
Reply-To: jan@ccice5.UUCP (John A. Nicowski Jr.)
Organization: CCI, Central Engineering, Rochester, NY
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Keywords: beyond the initial rejection

In article <305@unirot.UUCP> pooh@unirot.UUCP (Pooh) writes:
>
>What does everyone else think?  If you are told "no" the first time,
>do you give up?  Once you break up with someone, is it over for
>good?  Is "no" forever unless proven otherwise?
>
Back in college, I met a girl that I was interested in.  After the
first time we met, she thought I was a real jerk.  After about six
weeks of twice weekly offers ranging from movies to dinners to parties,
she relented and agreed to go to lunch with me, but brought along her
girlfriend.  October made it four years for us.

I think what kept me trying was that I was annoyed by the fact that
she was willing to turn me down without even knowing me at all.  I am
not unattractive, nor a person who would rather hack than go out with
a nice girl on Saturday night, and yet I was blown off like I had the
plague or something.  Yeah, the ego does bruise easily, but it was
more than that.  Don't tell me I'm a jerk if you don't even know me.
If the lunch thing flopped, and she still thought me a jerk, I would
have given it up, as the girl was obviously unstable.  But seriously,
if a person knows me and doesn't like me, that's fine, as he/she is
entitled to an opinion.  If they don't know me and think I'm a jerk,
that's unfair to me.

Whatever.

				'Cowski