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From: thoma@reed.UUCP (Ann Muir Thomas)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Interesting article (actually, who pays?)
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Date: Fri, 28-Feb-86 14:22:05 EST
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In article <4571@mhuxd.UUCP> amc@mhuxd.UUCP (Andy Cohill) writes:
>> > ...; some men can cope with a woman asking them out; most can't, ....
>
>I have eliminated most of the anxiety on my part. If I meet someone
>I like, I will initiate things a time or two. But if she does not
>reciprocate in kind, I just take her name out of my address book. I
>have fewer dates, but the women are of very high quality.
>
>Best regards,
>Andy Cohill
>ihnp4!mhuxd!amc

Just as a general question, what do people do when one "half" of a
couple is A LOT more financially solvent than the other?  I "let"
men I go out with pay my way if they are in better straits than I 
am, and share if we're in the same financial situation (i.e. poor
starving college student *8-)...One guy who I went to dinner with
had a yearly income 5-6 times greater than mine, and he paid my
way, because it was so obvious he could afford it, and I couldn't.
Then again, if he'd wanted to "go Dutch,"  I probably would have
said, "I can't afford it, so let's just stay home and make nookie--
because it's free."

In regard to Andy's statement in particular, he may be eliminating
a lot of "high quality" women from his social circle because they
just can't afford to match his financial contribution to the
relationship.  That doesn't sound fair to me.  I realize that there
are situations where the female has more moey, but they seem relatively
uncommon.

Ann Muir Thomas