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From: fuji@ssc-bee.UUCP (Glen T Fujimori)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Asking for that first date
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Date: Wed, 26-Feb-86 20:48:08 EST
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Re: the discussion on saying or having someone say 'no' to you;

First of all, thanks, Pooh, for bringing up an interesting topic.

I've never said 'no' because: 1) even though you think that this person
will probably not become your SO, you may still become good friends and,
2) if someone thinks enough of me to ask me out, they don't deserve
to be turned down. First dates are just that; they give both the chance to 
see whether or not both people are interested in starting a relationship--
platonic or otherwise. If it doesn't work out, most (I didn't say all :-)
people aren't destroyed because things didn't progress past the introductory 
stage.

Conversely, if I get turned down the first time, I let it drop right there.
I am astounded (perhaps naive) that someone would (or could) say 'no' when 
they really mean 'yes'. Would some of the women out there who use this 
technique please explain to the newsgroup the rationale behind it? This is not 
a flame, I would genuinely like to understand; if I could learn to recognize 
it then I just might ask a second time! :-)

glen fujimori
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