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From: lewak@sdcsvax.UUCP (George Lewak)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Interesting article
Message-ID: <1502@sdcsvax.UUCP>
Date: Mon, 3-Mar-86 19:07:47 EST
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Posted: Mon Mar  3 19:07:47 1986
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Reply-To: 73691440@sdcc13.UUCP (Victor Romano)
Organization: EECS Dept. U.C. San Diego
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Summary: Same for some men, too.


(Respond to ...!sdcsvax!sdcc13!73691440.  If you do not respond there,
I probably will never see it).

>
>[...]
>
>I thought the following article would be of interest to this newsgroup:
>
>[excerpted from Jan/Feb 1986 MENSA Bulletin No. 293]
>---
>
>Vive la Difference? by Sylvia Sandberg
>--------------------------------------
>
>Having devoted hours of research to the problem, consulting dozens of women, I
>have reached the following conclusions:
>
>   1. Men and women are not the same species;
>   2. Men's brains operate (if that is the word) differently from women's; and
>   3. I just don't understand them.
>
>The obvious differences don't ruffle me (much). I know that men are visually 
>stimulated, while women are emotion- and touch-oriented. I understand that
>men are socialized to need loving relationships less than women do. I have 
>even accepted that a man can make passionate, considerate love to a woman one
>night, kiss her tenderly in the morning, and never have it occur to him to call
>her again. But there are still things I don'd understand:
>
>*Why can't a man be honest?* Or, alternatively: Why can't he do what he said he
>would? It's not that he doesn't call that drives her crazy; it's that he didn't
>call after promising to. ...
>
>*Why do men always fall for the wrong women?* It really hurts, guys, when we
>
>*Why are men so blind about noticing a woman is interested?* We're in a delicate
>position, guys; some men can cope with a woman asking them out; most can't, and
>we have no way of knowing which is which. What signals can we use to tell you
>we're interested?
>---
>
>Any comments guys and gals?
>
>glen fujimori
>ihnp4!uw-beaver!{ssc-vax,ssc-bee}!fuji

	ALL these questions are also asked by many men about women.
	Actually, I was quite relieved to see that some woman asks
	these questions of men, as she can see some of what he goes
	through.

	By the way, I would say the first paragraph, that says that
	men are not touch-emotional-oriented is not always true.  As a
	matter of fact, I am a man, and me, along with many of my male
	friends, are touch- and emotional-oriented (as well as
	visual).  Also, we find that we do need loving relationships,
	and have difficulty finding women who want the same.  We have
	also dealt with dishonest women.  We often ask the second
	question as well (there was an earlier posting of a poem
	called "I Am No Saint" by Alex Sherstinsky.  This represents
	some males' feelings).

	As far as the last question, this represents a double-standard
	that is recent to both men and women.  I prefer women who ask
	men out if they're interested.  Some men, apparently, don't
	like this, but on the other hand, some women don't like being
	asked in this new age, either.

	Just wanted to reassure the woman who wrote this article, as
	well as those who share her opinions, that her half of the
	race is not alone!

				Victor

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