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From: mdf@osu-eddie.UUCP (Mark D. Freeman)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Singles, Lonely Mathematicians (and CSpeople), and networks
Message-ID: <1437@osu-eddie.UUCP>
Date: Tue, 4-Mar-86 20:08:52 EST
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Posted: Tue Mar  4 20:08:52 1986
Date-Received: Wed, 5-Mar-86 06:01:22 EST
References: <951@nmtvax.UUCP> <576@hoptoad.uucp> <12149@ucbvax.BERKELEY.EDU>
Reply-To: mdf@osu-eddie.UUCP (Mark D. Freeman)
Organization: StrongPoint Systems, Inc. (guest of Ohio State U.)
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Summary:

In <12149@ucbvax.BERKELEY.EDU> jablow@brahms.UUCP (Eric Robert Jablow) writes:
>So, that leads to my major question; what are honorable ways for singles
>to meet each other?  Personal ads are fatally contaminated by sex-seekers...

I strongly disgree.  I am a 25 yr old male caucazoid who seeks more/different
things from relationships than just sex.  I have placed personal ads three
times in the last 5 years and answered several as well.  I have met a bunch of
nice women (lawyers, bookkeepers, crisis councelors, secretaries, etc.) who
simply don't like the bars and still want to meet people even though it doesn't
seem to come naturally because of personality or job/career situations.

Of the 30 or so women I have met this way, one was psychotic, several were
DULL, several were completely unable to deal with me (I am not a republican
accountant who regularly attends church and donates money to TV evangelists),
some didn't spark any mutual attraction, and I have dated some for awhile.  

And yes, I did end up in bed with a few of them (not simultaneously).  I have
been dating a woman for seven months now, that I met by answering her ad.  She
is a doctoral student, who teaches and does bunches of research.  She didn't
have the time (or interest) to hang around the singles bars, but she did have
the time to write a 100 word ad.

You can also try subscribing to mail.personals.  I have heard about two women
this way, but they are both East Coast.  Keyboard-pals perhaps, eh?

A suggestion:

1)	Do not give up.  Just forget about it.  If you give off "I am hunting"
	vibes, women will 'feel' you coming and run like hell.  Once you get
	more zen about it all, you will probably realize at some point in the
	future that you have started meeting more women and just didn't notice
	(because you haven't been worrying about it).  It is somewhat like the
	situation of experiencing an incident of impotence.  If you worry about
	it, you can count on it being a big problem.  If you relax, accept the
	situation, and live your life as usual, it will probably not happen
	again.

Comments, anyone?
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Mark D. Freeman                                             mdf@osu-eddie.uucp
StrongPoint Systems, Inc.				    mdf@osu-eddie.arpa
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