Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site reed.UUCP Path: utzoo!decvax!decwrl!pyramid!hplabs!tektronix!reed!purtell From: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: What to do together Message-ID: <2669@reed.UUCP> Date: Tue, 4-Mar-86 15:00:21 EST Article-I.D.: reed.2669 Posted: Tue Mar 4 15:00:21 1986 Date-Received: Thu, 6-Mar-86 03:33:34 EST References: <489@ssc-bee.UUCP> <412@utastro.UUCP> <4571@mhuxd.UUCP> <2634@reed.UUCP> <4620@mhuxd.UUCP> Reply-To: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva) Distribution: na Organization: Reed College, Portland, Oregon Lines: 50 The discussion about who has more money in a love-affair started me thinking about this problem that I am having and the fact that it might be a good subject for the net. The problem is not that my beau has more money than I, but it is a problem of what to do together. That is, he and I have totally different interests. He likes hiking and backpacking. Reading Cooper or Thoreau is as close as I ever want to get to the "Great Outdoors". (Except for the fact that I love to ride; he's allergic to horses.) I love chamber music and the symphony. He couldn't tell Bach from Beethoven. He doesn't like to dance, I don't like sports. I could go on, but I think you get the idea. That's not to say there aren't exceptions to these rules. I did get him to dance with me once and I could probably drag him to a symphony. He could also bring me kicking and screaming to the middle of the woods, but only because he's a lot bigger than I am. And to say that I don't like sports is too general, I love baseball and have been a big Cubs fan for years, long before it was fashionable. He loves football which I see as violent and boring. But there does exist a problem (we've both noticed it) in that for the large part we don't like the same things. What do we do together? you may ask. Well, eat, for one thing. And we do occasionally like the same movies. And we both like each other's friends so there are things that we can do with them as well. There are a few other things, but our choices are limited. They're even more limited by the fact that we live in a town the size of Portland. There was a time when this was a bigger problem for us, but things have gotten better. I think partly because we (or I should say "I") accepted the fact that he wasn't going to start liking Chopin or learn how to foxtrot no matter how much I wanted him to, and that it was no reflection on how he feels about me. That's not to say that one person shouldn't take some interested in what the other person likes, but there are limits. He may get me in the woods for a weekend, but I'll *never* watch a football game if I can help it. (Gosh, I didn't even watch the Bears in the Superbowl - although I did cheer and jump up and down when I had heard that they won. We all have our faults. ;-) ) I guess the point to all this is to ask whether anyone else has had this problem, and how you dealt with it. And if anyone has any other suggestions as to what we might do together, I'd sure be interested in hearing them. Share and enjoy - elizabeth g. purtell (Lady Godiva)