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From: rcj@burl.UUCP (Curtis Jackson)
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Subject: Re: Interesting article
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Date: Wed, 5-Mar-86 00:57:21 EST
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Posted: Wed Mar  5 00:57:21 1986
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Summary: 

In article <26600168@uiucdcs> kaufman@uiucdcs.CS.UIUC.EDU writes:
>
>>	In the above mentioned article the author observes that men seem to
>> be "dense" about noticing when a woman is interested in them.  This seems to
>> me to be part of a more general phenomenon -- men just don't seem to notice
>> what is going on emotionally in the people around them anywhere near as
>> quickly as women.
>
>>					Kathryn Smith
>
>Of course it's possible that I've been too friggin' dense to notice legions
>of interested women around me :-)

It is entirely possible -- no smiley face.  There have been many women that
I have gone out with socially (i.e., other people around) whom I had known
for some time who came out and said, "I've always admired you", or "I
remember the first time I saw you..."  OK, OK, it was usually after a few
drinks.  But I have been amazed at some of the unattainable knockouts who
were stupid...er...*perceptive* enough to be very interested in me without
my even knowing -- turns out a lot of them weren't unattainable at all!
I consider myself very perceptive and sensitive in people-things, but
I seem to have a blind spot (insecurity? fear of assuming the wrong thing?
fear of my fainting if they said 'yes'?) when it comes to women being
interested in me without my first approaching them.  Guess it is all lack
of training, but I'm learning!

[Even more] seriously, how many times have you had conversations with
your friends (say in high school) that went something like:

A: "I'm telling you, she likes you, man!  She's crazy about you."
B: "You're seeing things; no way."
A: "Ask C, she's always liked you."
C: "Yeh, and how about the way she looked at you when she said 'hello' this
    morning?  Why don't you ask her out?"
B: "You guys are reading things into it that aren't there!"
etc. etc. etc. etc. etc. etc. ad nauseum

Think about it, but DON'T HARRASS ANYBODY or we'll banish you to net.women
with a T-shirt that says "Archie Bunker is My Hero" on the front and
"Hey, Cheryl, My Wife is a Housewife and Proud of It" on the back.

<Sorry, Cheryl, if you read this group>,
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