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From: terry@nrcvax.UUCP (Terry Grevstad)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: Re: Career vs. Relationship?
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Date: Tue, 18-Feb-86 15:49:04 EST
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Posted: Tue Feb 18 15:49:04 1986
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Reply-To: terry@nrcvax.UUCP (Terry Grevstad)
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cheryl@batcomputer.UUCP () says:
>	
>	Who convinced her to major in basket weaving?
>	Why don't you go punch him or her in the nose?
>	Or was it you that encouraged her?
>	Why don't you encourage her to go to law school
>	or something?  Why don't you teach her to program?
>
>	Or are you just going to sit back and LET her
>	stay in a weak position relative to you
>	by staying in a field that's low-demand?
>
        And a lot of other crap that I'm not going to include here!

GOD, Woman!  Get off your soapbox.  Let me give _you_ a couple of "facts"
here.

1.  Life is difficult.  DAMNED Difficult!!!  No one said it was going
    to be easy.  No one said it was even going to be fun.

2.  You are what you make of yourself.  Nobody forces you to do
    anything you don't want to do.  You make your own choices.

3.  And in a similar vein--You can't force your choices on anyone
    else.

4.  The be-all and end-all of this world is not how much money you can
    make.  And guess what?  When you turn 65 chances are very good
    that the glorious career you have chosen for yourself might just 
    disappear in a puff of smoke called "retirement."  If all you
    ever had was your career, then for you life ends at 65--you know
    why?  Because you sacrificed everything of real worth in this
    world to your "career."  And what can it do for you now?  Maybe 
    provide you with lots of money to sit around and look at.  Wow.
    I'd rather have lots of grandchildren to play with and lots of
    love to look at.

Lady, when will you realize that there are many ways to life?  Yours
is not the only way to go, believe me.  And I am willing to bet it's by
far not the happiest or the most productive.  Let people be.  Let them
make their own mistakes and learn from those mistakes.  Don't coerce
them into making mistakes they hadn't even thought about yet.  Don't
try pounding square pegs into round holes.  

If a woman (or man for that matter) wants to choose to be a teacher
(for the sake of argument), a relatively low paying job.  Let her make
that choice.  Maybe she just loves children.  Maybe she just loves
teaching.  Maybe she just loves learning.  And sure, maybe in 10 years
she will change her mind.  But that's her perogative.  

Let people make their own decisions and don't assume that they are
being coerced into these decisions.  Virtually NOBODY is forced into
something they don't want to do.  

Now I sound like I'm on a soapbox.  I guess it's time to get down.



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                                                       Terry Grevstad
                                         Network Research Corporation
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