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From: mc68020@gilbbs.UUCP (Tom Keller)
Newsgroups: net.kids
Subject: Re: Adoption Advice Wanted
Message-ID: <52@gilbbs.UUCP>
Date: Sat, 8-Mar-86 15:19:46 EST
Article-I.D.: gilbbs.52
Posted: Sat Mar  8 15:19:46 1986
Date-Received: Wed, 12-Mar-86 01:56:54 EST
References: <557@mhuxr.UUCP>
Organization: Gil's Place, Santa Rosa CA
Lines: 29
Summary: don't keep secrets from adopted children

In article <557@mhuxr.UUCP>, mfs@mhuxr.UUCP (Damballah Wedo) writes:
> My wife and I are going through adoption procedure with the New Jersey
> Division on Youth and Family Services. This will (eventually) be our first
> child. Stories from adopters and adoptees, books to read, and any
> other information that will help us be ready for this child 
> will be ggreatly appreciated.
> 
> Marcel-Franck Simon		ihnp4!{mhuxr, hl3b5b}!mfs

Marcel-Franck, congratulations!   I beg of you, whatever else you do, do *NOT*
keep the fact of your child's adoption a secret from the child.  This is *SO*
harmful.

As soon as the child is old enough to begin to comprehend (perhaps 6-8 years
old??), explain about adoption, and why you adopted him/her.  Explain that you
*CHOSE* her/him, and that you couldn't possibly feel any stronger love for
anyone.  Be open, be honest.  This honesty will tell your child more about your
love than can be measured.

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tom keller
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