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From: cjb@ccice2.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.kids
Subject: RE:teens
Message-ID: <716@ccice2.UUCP>
Date: Mon, 17-Mar-86 14:32:18 EST
Article-I.D.: ccice2.716
Posted: Mon Mar 17 14:32:18 1986
Date-Received: Sat, 22-Mar-86 01:55:46 EST
Organization: CCI Central Engineering, Rochester, NY
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I too have been reading the "teen sex scandal Question and answer
column". I just had to try to come up with two cents worth of
comments before I could bring myself to speak up (post).

It seems that I have lost the actual point which was in question
after reading some of the articles. I thought the question was
posed "What as a parent could I do?". 

I have a 2 year old, I know it's a little early, which compelled
me to ponder "what would I do". I think I can still look back to my teen
years to find the answer ( may be able to do that in 15 years ?).
From observing my friend's past behavior and they're present state
of mind,  allowed me to see some things which I would have missed
when I was that age. Time has a way of mellowing out the urgency found
in a teenager's life. It seems that those among my peer's who have
the most happy present life were those who had taken the road which
was the most 'right' for them. It also appears that those who 
'did it for... ' are/had the most difficult time of it.

Each person has to do what is 'right' for them. I think the clue is
that we as parents, must support them in this matter. That does not
mean 'let them run wildin the streets'. If we can provide them with
the knowledge and guidance they need, they can then make they're own
choice happily. 

Now for the nitty gritty stuff. If the 'unsigned' 18-year old poster
is happy with her lifestyle situation, more power to her. However, 
at her age a ski weekend with the girls may turn into a 
meeting with Mr. Right. A difficult choice will have to be made
here, no? I am assuming that rational thinking is still possible,
yet I have  seem more than one of my friends waking up the
morning after with a scary feeling.
"Naw I can't get pregnant from just doing it once" is just another
one of those lies like the check ...
But nine month's later, Mr. Right is on his way south...
For as for the 'slut's ' described in her article, some of them
are very happily married to my friends (10+ years). 

If your child is not comfortable with his/her sexuality and cannot
find help ( especially if you are not willing to see beyond yourself )
then somewhere down the road someone is going to 'pay the piper'
(shrink,lawer,etc).

Curtis (cjb@!rochester!ccice5!ccice2!)

Curtis (!rochester!ccice5!ccice2!cjb)

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P.S.
Oh yea, Then there's that girl I met not too long ago that 
made turn off the lights and wait in the bathroom...