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From: bwk@hou2f.UUCP (B.KORT)
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Subject: The Silicon Syndrome
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Date: Thu, 6-Mar-86 21:26:53 EST
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Posted: Thu Mar  6 21:26:53 1986
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There have been a number of interesting postings lately on the
differences between men and women, especially regarding sensitivity
to nonverbal cues.

There is an interesting new book by Jean Hollands entitled,
_The Silicon Syndrome_, published by the Coastlight Press in
Palo Alto.  Hollands is a marriage counselor in Silicon Valley,
and she has documented the breakdown in male-female relationships
in the high-tech sci-tech era.

Hollands describes the relationship in which one partner is high-tech
and the other is low-tech or non-tech.  (In about 80% of couples
working with Hollands, the male was the techie.)   One partner is
strong in logic, language, and cognition.  The other is more feeling
oriented and more nonverbal.  Each is operating on a different
wavelength than the other.  Communication between them is poor.
When a conflict develops, one goes "up in the attic" to ponder
the problem.  The other goes to the "microphone" to broadcast
a distress message.

I could go on.  The book is fascinating and well written. Those of
you interested in the subject may enjoy reading about the patterns
that emerge in Silicon Syndrome couples.

--Barry Kort  ...ihnp4!hounx!kort