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From: amc@mhuxl.UUCP (COHILL)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: those damned men
Message-ID: <608@mhuxl.UUCP>
Date: Thu, 6-Mar-86 08:03:20 EST
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Posted: Thu Mar  6 08:03:20 1986
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> I agree with many of the recent comments regarding mens's relative
> lack of ability to realate well with women in terms of touch and
> emotional sensitivity. 
> Joe Ahearn

Alright. I'm mad now. I am sick and tired of all this bitching and
moaning by some of the women on the net that "men are not  in touch
with their feelings", "men don't know how to hug", "men don't know
how to be expressive emotionally",.etc.

Here are some facts. There are too damned many women ready to scream
"harrassement", "rape", and make lots of insinuations (witness the
"beach harrassment" discussion on the net) about the behavior of men.
It is very dangerous for men to touch women, and it is women who
have programmed men to believe this. I have seen the careers of two
close work friends torpedoed by women who waged a campaign of
inuendo against them. No formal charges were ever raised, and the
women in question were disliked generally by men and women alike who
knew them; the two women were pissed off that they were not being promoted
fast enough, and declared war on their supervisors, who happened to
be male. And no other women, even those who knew the men were
blameless, had the guts to tell management that the whole thing was
phony. One friend was forced out of the company, and the other had
to transfer to another building.

Touching was not an issue in either case, but I tell the story to
make a point--too many women are eager to mis-interpret friendly
intentions. I touch and hug only my very closest friends, because I
can't trust anyone else not to take it the wrong way.

Best regards,
Andy Cohill
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