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From: laura@hoptoad.uucp (Laura Creighton)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: actually, who pays?
Message-ID: <591@hoptoad.uucp>
Date: Sat, 8-Mar-86 15:37:34 EST
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Posted: Sat Mar  8 15:37:34 1986
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In article <1409@vax1.fluke.UUCP> tron@fluke.UUCP (Peter Barbee) writes:
>From what both Andy and Ann have said I infer that they expect the asker
>to be the payer.  (Note, I may have misinterpreted!)
>
>Why?  I've asked and been asked to do many things and unless "who pays"
>is discussed I always assume it's Dutch.  It just seems so much easier.
>

It is easier if the askee has enough cash.  If they are broke, they are
in the unenviable position of having to say ``I'd love to, but I can't
because I am broke unless you pay'' all the time. For many people this
is difficult; it is easier to say ``No'' than to admit to being broke.
Since the asker (especially on first dates) is trying to get a YES out
of the askee,  it is in his interest pay so that he won't end up being
rejected because the askee is broke.  After going out to dinner becomes
a more regular occurrance, the two of them can work out something more
equitable if this is a problem.

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Laura Creighton		
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