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From: pooh@unirot.UUCP (Pooh)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Coping with the loss of SO
Message-ID: <360@unirot.UUCP>
Date: Mon, 10-Mar-86 14:12:01 EST
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Posted: Mon Mar 10 14:12:01 1986
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In article <575@aesat.UUCP> matt@aesat.UUCP (Matt Hill) writes:
>
>I know that "how long will it hurt" has been covered on the
>net, I however am interested on how people deal (or dealt) with
>the pain. 
>
>How did you cope?
>Has you outlook on life changed?
>How has your opinion of yourself changed?
>

I find that as I lose more and more SOs (:-) I get better and better
at *coping* with it.  Not that it hurts any less; I just learn what
makes me feel better.

Last time around, I went through training to become a crisis center
volunteer.  I think that was the best thing I could have done.  It
encouraged me to get in touch with feelings, made me feel useful
and needed, distracted me when I needed it (there's nothing like
helping someone else with his problems to take your mind off your
own), and allowed me to meet a number of truly caring and warm
people.  I usually have a low opinion of myself after a breakup,
and this helped me to feel as though I was making a contribution,
doing something worthwhile.  

The rest of the time, I just worked and waited for the pain to
go away.  It did, little by little.

Good luck to you!
Pooh
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With you, I can be myself! We don't need Dan Rather!