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From: silber@uiucdcs.CS.UIUC.EDU
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Subject: Re: Coping with the loss of SO
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Date: Wed, 12-Mar-86 02:46:00 EST
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Posted: Wed Mar 12 02:46:00 1986
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Nf-From: uiucdcs.CS.UIUC.EDU!silber    Mar 12 01:46:00 1986



How do I deal with the pain?
I don't go to parties, they depress me more, unless I know a lot of the
people there.
I listen to certain music, Schubert's Wintereise, various Requiems, to
remind myself it could be worse.  I listen to music  more in general, 
and louder.
I read alot.
I complain alot.
I drink more, and listen to the Rolling Stones alot.
I eat less.
I find myself feeling socially inept and clumsy for a while.
I feel sexualy and emotionaly frustrated.
I complain about the above.
I break empty bottles (often after having drunk their contents).
I play baroque music on the piano very late at night.
I suffer from insomnia.
I no longer think public displays of affection are very cute, and have an
almost uncontolable urge to yell at couples making out in public.
I feel very awkward when asking someone out.
I wallow in self-pity.
Then it gets better.  This last time (it was a serious relationship before
 I was dumped) has taken about six months.

			Ami Silberman

"Yes it's hard to tell, it's hard to tell, it's hard to tell when all your love's in vain."