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From: ladkin@kestrel.ARPA (Peter Ladkin)
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Subject: Re: Male Feminism (was: Why male dominance?)
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Date: Thu, 13-Mar-86 16:48:55 EST
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In article <459@ccivax.UUCP>, rb@ccivax.UUCP (rex ballard) writes:
> [...] most men, for whatever reason, tend to have a win/lose type of
> aggression.  Simply put, for a man to feel he has won, he must feel that
> the other person has lost.
>
> Women, although they may choose to "compete", have the option of developing
> a win/win approach.  Simply put, a woman can feel she has "won" if
> she gains benefit from the encounter even though the "opponant", if any,
> may have also gained. 

The win/win approach has been the cornerstone
of professional diplomacy for many centuries. And the profession
hasn't exactly been known for its lack of discrimination by gender.

It's interesting you work in a place where the men are win/lose
problem-solvers, and the women are win/win. 
I've never worked in a place like that.
To me, the trait has appeared in people independent of gender.

Peter Ladkin