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From: kaufman@uiucdcs.CS.UIUC.EDU
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Subject: Re: Skipping grades -> Undersociali
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Date: Tue, 18-Mar-86 22:05:00 EST
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Posted: Tue Mar 18 22:05:00 1986
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Nf-From: uiucdcs.CS.UIUC.EDU!kaufman    Mar 18 21:05:00 1986


>>Now, skipping grades is not for everyone.  I skipped 6 grades total,
>>and it has hurt me in some ways.  (As I have posted earlier,) I have
>>trouble involving myself in outside society, I don't know very well how
>>to meet people, and I am often lonely.  ...
>>
>>				--E. Fudd--
>>
>I can't help but wonder whether skipping the 6 grades actually
>caused you to have trouble involving yourself in society, or whether
>they are both "symptoms," if you will, of the same "disease,"
>namely, a very high IQ.

If you need another case study, I too skipped, albeit only one grade, and
it contributed to a lot of the problems listed above in my case too, a few
of which I still haven't fully recovered from 15 years after the fact.  The
effects of the skip also tended to rub off on my academic performance; the
years right after were my worst.  Before the skip, on the other hand, I had
fit in very well.

Gradually, I caught up to my new peers in maturity and acceptance, but it was
not an easy process.  I cringe to think what six years could have done.

I think it is definitely necessary that parents take their kid's ability to
cope into account when deciding whether to skip him/her.  The choice may
often be between the lesser of two evils.

>I once read an article about a study that
>had been done on married couples which concluded that there is a
>strong positive correlation between the closeness of the two
>partners' IQ's and the duration of their marriage.  It probably
>holds ture for friendships as well.  
>
>Laura Watson

Maybe, but the big flaw in that argument with respect to skipping would seem
to be that some of one's new classmates will share the person's IQ and/or
"mental age."  I can't find fault with it in the general case, though.

Ken Kaufman (uiucdcs!kaufman)
"There is a message for you on the pigeon."