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From: kort@hounx.UUCP (B.KORT)
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Subject: Re: female win/win vs male win/lose
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Date: Tue, 25-Mar-86 10:25:50 EST
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Posted: Tue Mar 25 10:25:50 1986
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I was interested in Melissa Silvestre's comments regarding
the propensity of males to adopt win/lose postures vis-a-vis
the female propensity to adopt win/win approaches.  Melissa
has observed a phenomenon born out by statistical experience.

However, I was curious about the Motherly advice to her daughter,
"Let your brother have his way;  boys will be boys."

Now I agree that when boys are behaving in an agressive manner,
prudence dictates that escalation of hostilities is to be avoided.
On the other hand, by what process shall the boys discover the
preferred option of mutual benefit?  This seems to be the dilemma
faced by the win/win faction, which at the present time is mostly
populated by the female of the species.  One possibility is to
expose the boys to a positive role model.  But there is a getting
started problem.  Somebody has to go first.  And for all their
macho aggression, boys are not pioneers when it comes to social
graces.

So I leave it with you, dear reader... How does the noble win/win
player enable the dumb macho win/lose player to discover the
error of his logic without bruising his fragile ego?

--Barry Kort  ...ihnp4!hounx!kort