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From: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Don't get me wrong, but
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Date: Tue, 25-Mar-86 14:34:39 EST
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Posted: Tue Mar 25 14:34:39 1986
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In article <12579@ucbvax.BERKELEY.EDU> jablow@brahms.UUCP (Eric Robert Jablow) writes:
>Please don't get me wrong.  I do meet people, I do have friends, I am
>not a library couch potato.  However, I don't have any dating-friends,
>any romantic entanglements, and my sex life is 0.  
>There is a tentative quality in all my
>friendships, and I was asking for your help.  I didn't think I'd be
>insulted by some of you for that reason.  
>
>Look, I can have reasonable conversations with just about anybody.  Yet
>I do not meet anyone who might be willing to date me.  Ever.  The
>people I meet are co-workers, and older people (married relatives,
>etc.)  I just don't know what to do.  I am not trying to redevelop my
>entire personality; I just want pointers.

	Hmmmm. I hope I'm not one of the people who you feel insulted you.
I certainly didn't mean to. I can see how skipping six grades could hurt
someone socially. It's just that it always seems like there are
discussions going on here (large or small) that involve people
complaining about how because they're so intelligent they can't make
friends and that just doesn't hold water as far as I'm concerned. 

	But, back to your problem, maybe there's more to it than you
skipping six grades. Since I know nothing about you it would be hard for
me to give you any advice. But maybe you feel that you're superior to
most of your friends ("I skipped six grades, I'm more intelligent than
all of you") and even if it's an unconscious attitude it shows in your
personality and turns people off. Before you immediately say "no, I'm
not like that" I'd think about it for awhile. In fact, I'd do a lot of
soul searching. You may need more than just pointers, you may need to
try to change some things about yourself. If you're serious about
wanting someone to date, etc. then it would be worth it. 

	My only other suggestion would be (and I hesitate to give it) join
some club, develop some hobby (which would involve other people) etc.
etc. Someplace where you can meet new, single people that isn't really
pressured like a singles bar. The reason that I hesitate to give this
advice is because I usually don't give advice that I wouldn't take and I
just loathe things like these. *I* would never join a club or
organization to meet people or for any other reason, but that's just one 
of many weird quirks in my personality. 

	Share and enjoy -

		elizabeth g. purtell

		(Lady Godiva)