Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP
Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!caip!topaz!ll-xn!nike!ucbcad!ucbvax!decvax!tektronix!teklds!dadla!rob
From: rob@dadla.UUCP (Rob Vetter)
Newsgroups: net.women,net.social
Subject: Why no marriage ?  No polygamy !
Message-ID: <945@dadla.UUCP>
Date: Wed, 30-Jul-86 15:18:27 EDT
Article-I.D.: dadla.945
Posted: Wed Jul 30 15:18:27 1986
Date-Received: Sat, 2-Aug-86 02:35:52 EDT
References: <1056@watdragon.UUCP> <15040@ucla-cs.ARPA>
Reply-To: rob@dadla.UUCP (Rob Vetter)
Organization: Tektronix, Inc., Beaverton, OR.
Lines: 49
Xref: watmath net.women:11747 net.social:1259

In article <584@ssc-bee.UUCP> fuji@ssc-bee.UUCP (Glen T Fujimori) writes:
>[...]
>
>> (myself included) want to get married and most of the single men I know
>> in the same age group (~25) do not want to get married.  Those men who
>> are aprox 25 and are getting or have gotten married recently seem to have
>> been given the choice of get married or find someone else.  Am I looking
>> at an unusual slice of people or do others find this true also?
>> 
>> -Beth Eades
>
> [general agreement, but]                My problem arises when the subject
>of kids comes up...it seems that alot of the women who are so willing to get
>married are *unwilling* to have kids (at least the one's I've met). I guess
>I'm old fashioned but I'd like to have a few kids, maybe more.

>>> On a slightly different but similar topic,  what about the laws agains
>>> polygamy?  In what way does polygamy threaten our society that it is 
>>> dangerous enough to be outlawed?
>>> 
>>> - E. Eades


	O.K., (he says raising his dragon scaled sheild), I brought these
	two subjects together because to me they are very related.  I too
	want to have children.  I also see major advantages in marriage
	for raising them.  But the biggest problem with marriage is the
	accepted or implied promise to be loyal to one and only one other
	person.

	A person can be loyal to their country, their family, their employer,
	and their spouse - can it hurt to be loyal to their SPOUSES ?

	Monogamy is an outgrowth of the female "needing" a provider.  Now
	that it has been shown that the female is perfectly capible of
	providing for herself, it seems silly.

	I am still looking for a group of people who (1) agrees with me,
	and (2) is compatible.  I won't get married until I do (or until
	I realize that I'm gonna die old and alone for looking ;-) ).
-- 

Rob Vetter
(503) 629-1044
[ihnp4, ucbvax, decvax, uw-beaver]!tektronix!dadla!rob
	"		"	  !psu-cs!vetterr

"Waste is a terrible thing to mind" - NRC
  (Well, they COULD have said it)