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From: cm@unc.UUCP (Chuck Mosher)
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Subject: Re: Post-marital sex
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Date: Thu, 14-Aug-86 18:24:07 EDT
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In article <6218@sri-spam.ARPA> gds@sri-spam.UUCP writes:
>Warning:  contains highly debatable material.  Will cause your fingers
>to erupt flames in response :-)

Haven't seen any response on this.  Fools jump in where wise ones fear
to tread... :-)

>We have beaten the subject of pre-marital sex into the ground, now let's
>let the other side of the "I do's" have their say.  A few questions:
>If you had sex before you were married, are you,
>   (a) glad you did, or
>   (b) wish you hadn't
>       and why?
>

Very glad I did.  In fact, should have done a lot more.  It has been my
experience that those people who have been fairly sexually active before
marriage have the most realistic expectations about what to expect from
a marital relationship, and are also in a position to evaluate (what
a technical-sounding word - how about "feel out" instead) their compatibility
with a potential spouse.  I don't know *anyone* who didn't have sexual 
difficulties/adjustments when building a long-term relationship.  And it's
not talked about much, either - which makes things even more difficult
("gee - if we are having such problems, and nobody else seems to, maybe we 
really aren't right for each other"). The more (loving!) experience, the better.

>Has your general opinion of sex changed since marriage?  Do you find it
>more, less or the same interesting?  Is it what you expected it to be
>(if you hadn't had sex before marriage)?
>

Yes - it is even more essential for close, open sharing than I thought before.
More.

>Do you feel the purpose of sex is
>   (a) to enjoy it
>   (b) to have children
>   (c) a and b
>   (d) something else (please state what you feel it is)
>
(a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d)
(a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d)
(a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d)
(a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d)
(a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d) (a) (d)
(b)

where:  (d) = form ever-deeper bonds and communication channels

>--gregbo

Thanks for an interesting survey, Greg!


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