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Subject: The fix Tom Keller's in...
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Date: Mon, 22-Sep-86 15:38:51 EDT
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..out there and socialize some, Tom. No wonder you can't get a lady
to be more than a friend...What lady wants some guy she can dress up
nice but can't take anywhere...(This is only half teasing here...)

Seriously, knock off the fooling around. You're not just cheating
yourself. You're cheating other folks out of getting to know you.
If you write down all the reasons you don't want to go out and
be sociable, then read 'em aloud...yer gonna find they are probably
just flimsy little excuses and not good reasons.

As to being a "girl watcher"...well, I'd agree that that is a bit of 
a problem. I used to do that some for the same reasons. Now I just
watch the ladies because they are (among other things) just plum
beautiful creatures to look at. (I don't think that's an attitude
that's the least bit degrading to me or the ladies...) The fact that
you don't intend to make any trouble, and the fact that you don't feel
right about staring at the gals makes me feel a whole lot better...I
was a little worried when I started reading your article. I hope you'll
get yer butt in gear and get out there and meet people. I also hope
you'll continue to think of the ladies as the respectable loveable people
they are 'til you get out of your "closet lover" situation. And while
I can identify with the dancing problems (I dance like I ice skate...poor,
real poor(8-).), I do dance a little (mostly slow and close(8-).) anyhow.
Most folks are having to good a time dancing to notice what you're doing
out on the floor. If ya threw a party, you could get games and such
going for those who just don't want to dance. Just get into some of
those. 

None of this is meant to indicate that I've had thousand of relationships,
but I've had a few and I'm glad I had every damned one of 'em...even the
ones that didn't work worth a darn. So, don't let fear and common sense
stop you from meeting people (women in particular)(8-). Once ya start
getting sociable, you won't want to be any other way.

Hope this helps, Tom...And good luck.
Ol' Grizzly