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From: li@uw-vlsi.ARPA (Phyllis Li)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: friends -> SOs?
Message-ID: <355@uw-vlsi.ARPA>
Date: Mon, 22-Sep-86 18:40:46 EDT
Article-I.D.: uw-vlsi.355
Posted: Mon Sep 22 18:40:46 1986
Date-Received: Sun, 28-Sep-86 23:45:16 EDT
References: <4056@reed.UUCP> <358@cord.UUCP>
Reply-To: li@uw-vlsi.UUCP (Phyllis Li)
Organization: UW/NW VLSI Consortium, Seattle
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Summary: One difference

>In article <4056@reed.UUCP> ellen@reed.UUCP (Ellen Eades) writes:
>>My question with this would be whether there *is* any difference
>>between the "love and trust" that exists at the present between
>>these two people, and the *L*O*V*E* which we have all been told
>>to expect from an SOship.

Sigh.  My machine has been weird, and not getting mail for the past couple
of weeks; however, in going backwards, I found this bit from Ellen, and
cannot find the original posting.  It is interesting, especially if it means
what I think it means, ie is there a difference between a very good, very
deep friendship and an SOship...

Just one difference, commitment.

There is either a lot or a little difference in that one word.  Most of my
high school friends have gone by the way-side, and I haven't really missed
them as I find new friends and go on.  That isn't to say that I wouldn't
help them out if they needed it; but it does mean that there are no
immediate demands.  In fact my old SOs and I write a *lot*, we know that we
would help each other out, no matter what, if we could; but there isn't the
immediacy, the intimacy, and the day-to-day commitment of helping each other
out as there is in my relationship with my SO.  My best friends I hear from
almost every day; however, even there the quantity isn't the same that I put
into my relationship.  And I know that if they missed a letter once in a
while it wouldn't really matter to me.

For me the quality of emotion is upped with the commitment as is the
quantity.  However, basically, they are the same emotions.  My SO and I knew
each other pretty well for m