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From: gds@sri-spam.ARPA (The lost Bostonian)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Life after graduation....
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Date: Fri, 26-Sep-86 09:39:39 EDT
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In article <1038@mhuxl.UUCP>, davec@mhuxl.UUCP (Dave Caswell) writes:
> 	Does anyone have any thought's about the differences between
> a school evnironment, and the work environment as far as meeting
> people goes ...
> 	So have any of you net.singles successfully handled a
> similar transition in your own lives?  If so, how?

I was in that situation about 2 years ago, after having graduated and
started work in NJ (moved from the Boston area).  I felt more or less
the same way you do.  There were other factors which contributed to my
loneliness, however for the first six months or so, I didn't really have
too much contact with anyone my own age.

Eventually I met people by means which people here have already
suggested -- social groups (I became a tutor for minority high school
students), church groups (didn't get an SO out of it but made some
really good friends), friends of friends (went rollerskating with one),
and in time I got to know some of the people I was working with better.
(But I moved again.)  The situation I am in now is vastly different from
that in NJ -- it is more like when I was at MIT because there are a
large # of computer types in the area who like to meet regularly, plus
there are people I work with who are closer to my age and are into doing
fun things (I've played basketball, been to baseball games, gone
dancing, skating & other things with people from work).  I supplemented
this with church group socializing, and surprise!  I have an SO now.

Leaving school for a new job in a new area can be very traumatic,
especially if you don't know anyone where you are going.  It's even
harder in non-metropolitan places where more young people marry earlier,
leaving less available single people.

Hope this helps,

--gregbo