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From: gds@sri-spam.ARPA (The lost Bostonian)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Life after graduation....
Message-ID: <7379@sri-spam.ARPA>
Date: Fri, 26-Sep-86 09:55:28 EDT
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Posted: Fri Sep 26 09:55:28 1986
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In article <405@cci632.UUCP>, rb@cci632.UUCP (Rex Ballard) writes:
> One place where you can be formally introduced to single women is in
> churches.  If you look even remotely respectable, many congregations
> will literally "trot out" all of the single women in the group.  This
> is especially true in smaller towns.

I did not believe this, because in the churches I had belonged to in the
past, it had never happened to me (although at the church in Cambridge I
knew a lot of the women already because they either went to school
with me, or went to Wellesley or Harvard or somewhere else close by).  I
had an amusing discussion once with my SO (before she became my SO) when
she told me that I was the only single male over the age of 21.  I had
never been in that situation before -- it seemed kind of funny --
usually it was the other way around, a lot of guys and a lot less women.

> I personally avoided fundamentalist groups, because there are several
> mainstream groups that are much more flexible.  U.C.C., Presbyterian,
> Methodist, and Unitarian groups are very liberal.  If you are not
> as "uptight" about fundamentalists, Babtists, Mormons, and other
> "right wing" groups not only have special groups for single people,
> but they provide extensive social activities for those groups.  Many
> are more sexually aware than their doctrines might indicate as well.

I was also surprised to learn how many of the single women in my church
liked to go dancing.  This was not so true in churches I had gone to in
the past, where dancing was not accepted as proper Christian behavior.

> One area to avoid is the "big name" nightclubs and/or disco's.  Although
> there are lot's of beautiful women there, they tend to be more cautious
> and the conversation required to start a serious type of relationship
> is rather difficult when you can't even hear yourself speak.

Yeah, I agree, in fact it bums me out when I go to clubs and I have to
yell above the noise for someone to hear me.  Clubs are a nice place to
let loose and all, but it is *very* hard to meet someone.  If you could
find a friend or friends to go with you, that makes it easier.  (I
posted an article about 2 years ago complaining about being unable to
meet people at clubs, btw, and got much of the same advice I'm giving
now.  Maybe there is some truth to the rumor that age brings wisdom :-)

--gregbo