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From: edhall@randvax.UUCP (Ed Hall)
Newsgroups: soc.singles,soc.women
Subject: Re: internal conflicts wrt sexual stimuli and so on
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Date: Wed, 24-Sep-86 16:18:36 EDT
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Posted: Wed Sep 24 16:18:36 1986
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In article <1665@ames.UUCP> barry@ames.UUCP (Kenn Barry) writes:
>	My main problem is that you went from "just sex objects" in the
>former paragraph, to "sex objects" in the latter. Obviously, no one wants
>to be just a sex object; no one wants to play that role at all times,
>with all people. But much confusion can arise from a phrase like "being
>a sex object is degrading", because it's ambiguous. Does it mean that
>being nothing but a sex object is degrading, or does it mean that playing
>that role part-time and voluntarily is also degrading?

Sorry to be confusing at this particular point, but I thought I made
it clear in the rest of my posting (e.g. the comments on mutual lust)
that being *only* a sex object is what's objectionable--it can be
quite fun to play that role in appropriate circumstances.

>	I have one other problem with what you said. You speak of impersonal
>sexual interest being repulsive to the object of interest. I disagree.

Perhaps we should consider the context.  Many people like to be admired
for their attractiveness or ``sexiness''.  But a lot fewer people want
their SO to consider them in that way and no way else.

I usually assume that my reader has been following the particular
discussion I'm commenting on.  Otherwise, length of postings tend to grow
exponentially.  In this case we were discussing problems with finding
an SO, and not general comments on people-watching.  I agree completely
with what you said in the context you put it in, Kenn.  But I wasn't
discussing superficial attraction, here.

>-  From the Crow's Nest  -                      Kenn Barry

		-Ed Hall
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