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From: credmond@watmath.UUCP (Chris Redmond)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Life after graduation....
Message-ID: <3414@watmath.UUCP>
Date: Sat, 27-Sep-86 18:46:27 EDT
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Posted: Sat Sep 27 18:46:27 1986
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Reply-To: credmond@watmath.UUCP (Chris Redmond)
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In article <7379@sri-spam.ARPA> gds@sri-spam.ARPA (The lost Bostonian) writes:
>In article <405@cci632.UUCP>, rb@cci632.UUCP (Rex Ballard) writes:
>> One place where you can be formally introduced to single women is in
>> churches.  If you look even remotely respectable, many congregations
>> will literally "trot out" all of the single women in the group.  This
>> is especially true in smaller towns.
>
>> I personally avoided fundamentalist groups, because there are several
>> mainstream groups that are much more flexible.  U.C.C., Presbyterian,
>> Methodist, and Unitarian groups are very liberal.  If you are not
>> as "uptight" about fundamentalists, Babtists, Mormons, and other
>> "right wing" groups not only have special groups for single people,
>> but they provide extensive social activities for those groups.  Many
>> are more sexually aware than their doctrines might indicate as well.
>
>I was also surprised to learn how many of the single women in my church
>liked to go dancing.  This was not so true in churches I had gone to in
>the past, where dancing was not accepted as proper Christian behavior.
>

I am delighted that this point is being raised.  A couple of generations
ago, church was where practically EVERYBODY met their mates; in a time
when churches were pretty central to North American society, it went
without saying that they were the focus of activities beyond "worship"!

In some places, so I have been told, the custom was that on Sunday
mornings you went to "your own" church, i.e., the one your parents had
gone to or the one whose doctrines you liked best.  Then on Sunday
evenings you went to whichever church in town was known for having the
best selection of members of the opposite sex.  And you stuck around
for the social hour afterwards.

If you like dancing, and you have the impression that dancing is often
not considered proper Christian behaviour, you have been hanging around
the wrong churches!  Look for one higher up the Liberal Behaviour
scale, which I have just invented:

   Unitarian Universalist (outside New England)
   United Church of Christ
   Roman Catholic (with young priest)
   United Presbyterian
   Unitarian Universalist (in New England)
   United Methodist
   Lutheran, Missouri Synod or Evangelical
   Southern Presbyterian
   Roman Catholic (older priest)
   Baptist
   Mormon
   Anything with "Bible" in the name of it

(Disclaimer: the above list is biased, partial, based on stereotypes,
inaccurate and disorganized -- and has to do with a lot of things
besides attitude to dancing.)