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From: ronc@fai.UUCP (Ronald O. Christian)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Commitments
Message-ID: <404@fai.UUCP>
Date: Thu, 2-Oct-86 17:21:27 EDT
Article-I.D.: fai.404
Posted: Thu Oct  2 17:21:27 1986
Date-Received: Sat, 4-Oct-86 11:16:52 EDT
References: <352@ur-cvsvax.UUCP> <1031@sunybcs.UUCP>
Reply-To: ronc@fai.UUCP (Ronald O. Christian)
Organization: Fujitsu America, Inc.
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In article <1031@sunybcs.UUCP> colonel@sunybcs.UUCP (Col. G. L. Sicherman) writes:
>> 	Nevertheless, everytime I kept on trying to say "Listen, give me a
>> 	call when you get this straightened out and I'll check you later"
>> 	she would say "Dont leave me".
>
>That's no commitment, it's a mousetrap.  Next time a woman tells you
>"Don't leave me," stand tall and go!  It won't hurt her and might help
>you.  (Sure, it depends on the woman ...)

I agree.  It sounded like a no win situation.  If you stay, she
will use you as an emotional crutch and then go on to someone
new later.  If you go, she'll hate you 'forever'.  It's tough
to see at the time, but you probably needed to look elsewhere.

I heard somewhere that when you help someone through a messy
break-up, they are very unlikely to want to be around you afterwards,
either as an SO or even a friend...  Something about being embarassed
about baring their soul to you, or associating you with painful
memories.  I wish I could think of the reference.


			Ron
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