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Subject: Re: Yale-Harvard marriage study
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Date: Fri, 3-Oct-86 20:10:26 EDT
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In article <435@cci632.UUCP> rb@ccird1.UUCP (Rex Ballard) writes:
>The partner with the greater education, training, experience, and success
>has a right to expect the partner with less to make sacrifices.  If that
>means the woman has more success, then the man should "give way".

Why?  Is it really better for their marriage, or even their future for
the less experienced person to always be expected to sacrifice? 

If the marriage rules were 'only one person can be successful' then 
perhaps we could expect the above situation.  We would also see
successful people attracted to unsuccessful people in order to cut
down competition at home. (It's you or me babe, and I intend to see
that it's me [:-(])

The partner with greater education, training, experience, and success
has a right to look at the situation, its effect on the future of the
relationship, the possible alternatives, and decide what course
of action will produce the best results in the short and long
term.  (Of course, discussing this with the other person will
help a lot.)

I do not believe that marriage should have too many  win/lose situations.
-- 
Disclaimer: This is just my responding, with an ambiguous language, to
what someone else wrote, in an ambiguous language. At no time did I
read anyone's mind to find out what they really meant.

       Pamela K. Whitehurst 
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"Yes, it is bread we fight for, but we fight for roses too."