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From: gds@sri-spam.ARPA (The lost Bostonian)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Treat 'em like dirt boys
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Date: Thu, 9-Oct-86 16:43:50 EDT
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Posted: Thu Oct  9 16:43:50 1986
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How many of you have been in the situation where someone who you were
attracted to happened to be going out with someone else, and in your
opinion, they were treating that person like dirt?  I used to feel that
way.  Part of that feeling was jealousy.  I used to say things like "XXX
treats her like dirt ... if *I* were going out with her *I* would never
do that!"

The situation is not as cut-and-dried as it seems.  You may have caught
them on a bad day.  There may be other circumstances.  Or, the person
may really be treating the someone you were interested in crummy.  At
any rate, I do not think people like to be treated like dirt.  Some
become accustomed to it if they have never experienced anything else, or
some come to feel they deserve it, but I don't believe they like it.
They may not be able to get out of the situation, or they may be hoping
for the day when their SO/spouse drops their crummy behavior and their
good qualities come through.

--gregbo
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