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From: eric@batcomputer.TN.CORNELL.EDU (Eric Fielding)
Newsgroups: soc.singles,soc.women
Subject: Re: Yale-Harvard marriage study
Message-ID: <1192@batcomputer.TN.CORNELL.EDU>
Date: Thu, 9-Oct-86 13:36:19 EDT
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Posted: Thu Oct  9 13:36:19 1986
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In article <455@cci632.UUCP> rb@ccird1.UUCP (Rex Ballard) writes:
>In article <1150@batcomputer.TN.CORNELL.EDU> garry%cadif-oak@cu-arpa.cs.cornell.edu writes:
>>In a recent article rb@ccird1.UUCP (Rex Ballard) wrote:
>>>The partner with the greater education, training, experience, and success
>>>has a right to expect the partner with less to make sacrifices...
>>So: them that has, gets more. That's a cruel way to think about a partnership!
>>garry wiegand   (garry%cadif-oak@cu-arpa.cs.cornell.edu)
>Cruel?  Perhaps, but also realistic.  A promotion worth 10% to a partner
>making $40,000 might cost the other partner making $10,000, 10%.  Net gain
>for the parnership, $3,000.
>In fact, the better long term investment (assuming both parnters are
>equally motivated) would be to invest nearly all of the gain in measures
>that will maximise the $10,000 parnter's opportunities for additional
>income, such as additional education.
>There is obviously more at stake here than just money.  Each
>decision will not be this clear. 

I am glad that you admit that money may not be the best criterium for making
job decisions.  Have you considered the possibility that a person who is more
advanced in their career, experience, education, etc., can better afford to be flexible
to their SO to catch up.  When society gives men more of a "benefit of the
doubt", men may be better able to take time off from advancing their careers,
and still be able to maintain their "place in line".

				++Eric