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From: mike@peregrine.UUCP (Mike Wexler)
Newsgroups: soc.singles,soc.women
Subject: Re: Yale-Harvard marriage study
Message-ID: <1157@peregrine.UUCP>
Date: Fri, 10-Oct-86 18:20:55 EDT
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In article <597@chinet.UUCP> rissa@chinet.UUCP (Garret and Trish) writes:
>Basic changes in the way we as a society view and value families and
>children would be a good start.  Instead of trying to find ways to 
>adapt your working and living conditions to an outmoded workplace,
>maybe you should ask yourself why the government hasn't taken steps
>to meet your's (and millions of other people's) needs for child care,
>maternal and paternal leave, etc.
I think that basic changes in the way society views and values families are
happening. that is one of the reasons why there is so much turmoil. 
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Why should the government make the changes.  Why not use individuals.  
Society is becoming more varied.  Different people may have different
solutions.  Why have the government extract money from everyone to implement
a solution that is not necessarily best for everyone.  I agree there are
problems right now, but these are symptoms of a fundamental change in
society.  Some of the solutions are households with multiple families
living in them.  With just two families everyone could work 5 days a week
and in there two days off watch the kids.  Another method that some people
use is sending there kids to daycare centers.  Another method is to have
retired grandparents watch the kids.  There are many other possible solutions,
why not let individuals choose there own solutions and accepts the related
emotional, economic, and social costs.  
>
>We will not have women's equality in this country until this accomplished.
>As things stand now, all women are penalized by society for their role in
>child-bearing and child-rearing, regardless of whether they have children
>or not.  Instead of trying on their own to overcome the enormous logistic
>and economic problems most working couples with children face, theses per-
>sons would do better to push for legislative changes.
Why shouldn't they look for solutions to there problems.  Is there some
legislation that is harming them?  Or are they just another special interest
group that would like to benefit at the expense of other groups in society.
>In between the times they spend buying groceries, going to parent-teacher
>meetings, washing PE suits, helping with homework, fixing bicycles, 
>waiting for the pediatrician, reading bedtime stories, etc.
>
>Trisha O Tuama


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