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From: mat@mtx5a.UUCP (m.terribile)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: Re: Re: Nice guys finish last redivivus
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Date: Sun, 12-Oct-86 20:20:26 EDT
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> In article <184@hrcca.UUCP> bodhi@hrcca.UUCP (Bodhisattva) writes:
> >> >			 why do females act this way?  eg Be nice => they
> >> >lose interest: ignore 'em, abuse 'em and they crave you.
> >> 
> >> I'm guilty of Doug's accusations...and believe me, I've spent numerous
> >> hours brainstorming with my friends as to why I'm always attracted to the
> >> jerks ...
> ...  It was amazing how many women were attracted to me when I acted like I
> didn't care!!  Unfortunately, it backfired several times, ... It was also
> interesting how many women lost interest when I began to show some.

My I offer a speculation?  Pursuing someone who is indefferent to you but
whom you find attractive in some way takes no emotional commitment, no effort,
no growth, no risk.  This may be one way of satisfying sexual urges while not
putting one's self at risk with someone who, in some subtle way, doesn't offer
emotional safety in friendship.

> I might point out as well, that women seem more willing to approach me
> for social relationships, hugs, friendship,... since I have been married,
> than when I was single.  It's not that all the "good ones" are taken, it's
> that they don't become "good ones" until they are taken.

Of course, it's also possible that you have changed.
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