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From: cc@locus.ucla.edu (Oleg "Kill the bastards" Kiselev)
Newsgroups: soc.singles
Subject: No longer Re: A Date With Doug?
Message-ID: <1593@curly.ucla-cs.ARPA>
Date: Thu, 18-Sep-86 22:40:14 EDT
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Posted: Thu Sep 18 22:40:14 1986
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In article <2957@pyuxd.UUCP> dmd2@pyuxd.UUCP (D Dennee) writes:
>i.e, the man you're having a conversation with that you find irresistable
>suddenly loses interest the minute you let on you like him? And then there's
>that guy who you just aren't "in" to that keeps coming on to you even though
>you are ignoring him and trying to get away.

Because (first) you stop being an interesting conversation partner and start
making very explicit passes at him. Try letting on that you like him as a 
person and as a human being, not as sex object.

Because (second) you either don't make it obvious that you would rather have
a festering wound than talk to him, or the guy is stupid.

>"Treat us like shit and we'll love you for life" 

I'll pass. I do not enjoy being treated like shit and do not expect others
to stand for it. Surface impressions aside, if a man is REALLY abusive to
you (slaps you, kicks you just beacuse you are there, yells at you for
things you are not in control of, etc.) are you going to let him? Love 
him MORE for it?

>Self analysis #1)  "Thrill of the Chase" Syndrome.  After all, why would
>I want something that comes too easy??

Because you have mutual interest in each other? Because you find that you
are both irresistably drawn to each other? And there is none of the "thrill
of the chase", there is "thrill of mutual desire", there is no game playing,
only honesty and acceptance.

>... I can live with a little
>male chauvanism here and there, because I care for him so much.

Where is Cheryl when we need her?!

						Oleg Kiselev