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From: mjranum@gouldsd.UUCP (Marcus the Ranum)
Newsgroups: soc.singles,soc.women
Subject: Re: Yale-Harvard marriage study
Message-ID: <192@gouldsd.UUCP>
Date: Tue, 7-Oct-86 15:24:17 EDT
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Posted: Tue Oct  7 15:24:17 1986
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Summary: uh, guys...

In article <1158@batcomputer.TN.CORNELL.EDU>, cheryl@batcomputer.TN.CORNELL.EDU (cheryl) writes:
> 

blah, blah, blah...

> >An appropriate analogy might be the person who has invested $50 in
> >a business, recruits a backer to invest $50,000, and gets upset
> >when the backer won't give him complete control of the business.
> 
> Yes.  Quite correct.  I was being asked to sacrifice my whole future.
> Of course I insisted on complete control.
> 

blah, blah, blah...

> 
> >You have already expressed your contempt for a man who, with more experience
> >and training, would not sacrifice his success for yours.  How would you
> >feel if a man with less experience or success expected you to sacrifice
> >your success for his?
> 
> I don't discriminate on the basis of age.  ANY man who tries to con me 
> with this "you follow me" routine is history.  ME FIRST.  
> 

blah, blah, blah...

> >At least with an 'inferior' man, you have the bargaining advantage.
> 
> The ultimate bargaining advantage is to be willing to dump the guy.
> 
> Cheryl


	Now, aren't both of you forgetting something ? This isn't horses 
you're dealing with here, this is people we're talking about. I get the
impression from the above dialog that we have two people who judge their
prospective partners in terms of their idealogical correctness and their
economic growth potential. 
	Certainly it is very important to be able to work out your career
with your partner, and to determine the best way to advance together, but
this sounds a lot like the today generation once again rabidly foaming 
its way through another chorus of "gimme, gimme, gimme."  
	I submit to you, Cheryl, that if the ultimate value of your mate
is in terms of bargaining or economic value, you have some real problems.
Doesn't it get lonely out there with such a soulless approach ?  In fact,
I really pity anyone with a view of the world is so totally that of the 
marketplace. Certainly I hope I never have the misfortune to care for 
someone who sees me only as a bargaining chip. That would hurt.

Live Free
mjr
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