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From: jeffw@midas.UUCP (Jeff Winslow)
Newsgroups: soc.singles,soc.women
Subject: Re: internal conflicts wrt sexual stimuli and so on
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Date: Mon, 22-Sep-86 13:25:31 EDT
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At the end of an otherwise excellent article (I agreed with it :-))
Ed Hall gets in this dig:

>                                             Some traditional women
>might accept men treating them as a sex object as ``the way men are''
>[are you listening, Jeff W?], 

I'm listening, and I can't figure out what it has to do with me. My
defense was of men fantasizing, not treating women as sex objects.
Something that I doubt even "traditional" women would enjoy, though
I suppose they might accept it.

Wrt to Tom K.'s questions, I'd suggest that Ed's article be required
reading, even if it's no immediate help. For what it's worth, I met the
woman who is now my wife several months after I had decided I could live
alone for the rest of my life and enjoy it. Unfortunately that's probably
not much help either. Except that you need things you enjoy doing that
take a lot of effort and time to make that kind of decision, and I don't
imagine women get very excited by men who are only interested in women.

						Jeff Winslow