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From: monam@tekecs.UUCP (Mona McLaughlin)
Newsgroups: soc.singles,soc.women
Subject: Re: Entrapment (Re: Re: Boys vs. Girls
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Date: Thu, 25-Sep-86 12:34:16 EDT
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> True situation:
> Man, during intitial sexual encounters uses protection but is told by
> woman that she is on the pill.  Relationship continues, with the man
> taking precautions during the "placebo days" but the woman taking the
> pill on a regular basis.  Man even checks the "dispenser" to make sure
> she hasn't forgotton, or simply stopped.  Woman starts flushing pills
> down the toilet to appear protected, but is in fact not protected.
> 
> Woman gets pregnant, doesn't tell boyfriend for several weeks,
> and breaks off relationship.  Then she tells him she's pregnant and
> that he will have to pay child support.  Ex-boyfriend is in college,
> one year from graduation.  Does he have a choice?  Should he have a choice?
> 

Admittedly this sounds very unfair to the man who appears to have no
choices.  "Child Support" seems to be unfair to men in some cases
and unfair to women in other cases (like when they don't get any).

The only way a man can feel totally safe from this type of situation
is to abstain, because if he goes to court it will not be "Man against
Woman" - it will be "Man against Welfare of Child" and the man will
not win.  In other words, the law is not saying that the woman deserves
child support, it is saying that the CHILD deserves child support.

While *I* would not like to be a man in this type of situation, I
seriously doubt if this would have made it impossible for this man
to finish his education.  Child support is usually awarded based
on the man's income at that time, and I'm sure he could find a
way to finish his last year of college, despite those payments.

This is not to say that I think this situation is FAIR, it just
means that that is how the laws tends to see things.

Mona, Tektronix