Path: utzoo!utgpu!watmath!julian!uwovax!3017_411
From: 3017_411@uwovax.uwo.ca (Karl-Michael Schindler)
Newsgroups: ont.singles
Subject: Long-distance romance (was Re: wireless sex)
Message-ID: <1339@uwovax.uwo.ca>
Date: 23 Jan 89 17:04:38 GMT
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Organisation: Dep. Chem., UWO, London, Ontario, Canada

In article <3594@geaclib.UUCP>, rae@geaclib.UUCP (Reid Ellis) writes:
> Gee Geoff, don't you like CFNY eaither? :-)
> 

A lot about a long-distance romance


> In an attempt to get a more appropriate topic going, are there any people
> out there who are or have been involved in a long-distance romance?  And
> when I say long-distance, I'm not talking Toronto-Waterloo, I'm talking a $500
> airplane ticket!
> 
> I'm currently engaged to someone on the west coast [San Jose] in That Other
> Country.  This is proving to be a major hassle, since we can't have much of
> a chance of living together without getting married *FIRST*.  Frankly, this is
> starting to really piss me off.  [excuse my American]
> 
> It is common wisdom that before getting married, you should try living with
> your SO for a period of time [a month, two, twelve, thirty-six, whatever], but
> what do you do when one of the biggest corporations on the planet won't let
> you?  Currently, I'm trying to get a job down there, thereby becoming
> "sponsored", which lets me live down there.  Bah, long-distance job hunting
> is no fun either.
> 
> Any advice from people would be appreciated..
> 
> Reid
> -- 
> Reid Ellis
> geaclib!rae@geac.uucp

	A had a long-distance romance with my now wife for about half the time 
of our first eight years.  Not $ 500 per flight, but 20 hours on train per 
weekend and $ 300 per month (We both were students).  Holidays were always a 
good time and sometimes we managed to live in the same town for a while.  
Horrendous telephone bills were another fact.  Good if there was a holiday 
on Friday or Monday to stay one day longer.  And as soon as you got used 
to each other one has to leave.  
	Maybe, try to spend your vacation at her place and she spends her at 
your place.  By this way you will notice your everyday faces and not only the 
weekend/holiday faces.  Or take the vacations for job-hunting.  I agree that I 
wouldn't like the idea spending my vacation by job-hunting, but nevertheless an 
idea. 
	And the living for and focussing on the next gettogether.  It turned 
out that the more you expect the more will go wrong at that weekend (not always 
but at least sometimes).  
	We finally got together because our son was borne.  Without him it (the 
long-distance friendship) would have lasted about one year longer, which shows 
that if it is necessary, you can manage and arrange a lot and we didn't gave up 
much like position, education and so on.

			Best wishes - Michael.

Karl - Michael Schindler <3017_411@uwovax.uwo.ca>